I hate money…but please give me some

I bet that got your attention.

ML and I are fantastic people, but we are terrible with money. This is concerning for me on various levels, including the fact that he is an accountant. Oh well.

We have decided that we would like to buy a house in the near future, though living as one big happy family with my mother has been thrilling. If I look at my Facebook feed, it seems like every week there is another happy face holding a set of house keys to their brand new house. I would be lying if I said it didn’t send pangs of jealousy from my heart to my head every time. How do people do it? I look at my situation, clearly the one I know best, and I am at a loss for how my peers are homeowners. I make an above average salary (woohoo!), I have your basic payments (rent, car, selling my first born child to school loans, cell phone), plus I buy the necessities like food and gas. And at the end of the day, I’m left with a little bit to put into savings.

 

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Please other millenials, tell me your secret to saving $25k+ in no time to buy a house?

….And don’t even get me started on what a wedding costs…Good thing I’m not engaged..I guess

Why it’s important that millennialist give.

It is no secret that I work in the world of nonprofits. I fundraise for a living for an organization that I am very proud to be a apart of. A topic that has come up over and over again throughout the few months I have been in my job is the next generation.

If you won one of those crazy jackpots what would you do with the money? Many would say buy a home and cars, travel the world, do outlandish things they could only ever dream about. If you asked me that same question I would answer similarly, but one of my dreams I would fulfill would to creat my own foundation to help those in need. The millennial generation has had everything they could ever ask for at their fingertips with the internet, and have found phenomenal ways to use social media for the betterment of mankind. But unfortunately liking a photo is not enough.

If you look at some of the world’s richest people they are giving away their wealth left and right, Bill Gates and Warren Buffett are just two examples. And while they are phenomenal examples, they are of a certain age and generation. Millennialist are not as apt to giving as their parents and grandparents have been. This is a generation who is happy with instant gratification, myself very much included. This mentality is great for those organization and movements out there who thrive off of volunteer manpower. But every organization that makes a difference also needs a way to keep their lights on, and volunteerism does not pay the bills.

The purpose of this post is not to say millennialist aren’t philanthropically inclined, or that money is the answer to the issues at hand. This is to say that everyone should devote themselves to a cause, defy the “selfish millennial” stereotype. But also know that by ingesting time AND money you are not just helping others but investing in your future as well

Selfish

It has been a month since I shared my thoughts with my little corner of the internet.  I have no significant reason for having fallen off the face of the blog, other than I found other things to fill my time.  I’ve been working, reading, vacationing, celebrating holidays, making expensive purchases, and spending time with my family.  None of these things scream the acts of a self-consumed, self-absorbed person, yet I have this feeling that I have spent the better part of a month only thinking about myself.

This feeling came to a point this morning when I was so excited to see that my favorite blogger had posted after an extended absence. Her post was not what I had been hoping for.  Rather than a page of apologies for being MIA it was her sign off, that she could no longer continue to share her life with the world because her mother a succumbed to an illness none of her readers knew about.  I immediately felt heartbroken for both her and myself.  While I do not know this writer, I have read her words nearly daily for the better part of 3 years.  I have shared in her ups and downs through her words, watched her fall in love, and take great leaps of faith.  I have even previously written about her in this space as a role model for myself.  I know the feeling of losing a parent too soon, and I share in that agony.  But my selfishness boiled over when I realized that I felt pangs of sadness because I would no longer get to be a fly on the wall of her life.  I’m not sure what that says about me, but it was a very real feeling.

Oddly enough, selfishness is something that I have actively tried to work against throughout my life.  I have always personally felt that selfishness was one of the absolute worst traits a person could possess.  I am struggling with this overwhelming sense that I have become a person I would not be friends with.

Earning your MRS

I was watching the Today show this morning and had to share my unwarranted opinion about this topic.

Susan Patton, a Princeton grad, wrote this letter to her alma matter’s newspaper about the importance of women finding a husband while they are in college.  Her justification for this claim is that girls entering college are at their prime, physically and fertile-ly, and by snagging a husband-to-be as a co-ed will be beneficial in the long run for their offspring.  She does state that clearly she thinks women should receive an excellent education, as they should be the intellectual equals of their spouse.

Watching Savannah Guthrie interview this woman was painful, and really was a visual sum of why Patton is wrong.  On the left is Savannah Guthrie, 40+ and recently engaged, in one of the most coveted positions in journalism, an incredibly well educated (Georgetown JD, U of Arizona BA) successful woman.  On the right is Susan Patton, who’s claim to fame are her controversial claims made in her letter and now subsequent book.  While I do not want to compare the physical appearance differences between the two women, it is clear that Patton is older than Guthrie, and may actually appear older than her years.

I know I do not stand alone in thinking that Patton is wrong, and may just be saying these things for the reaction she is receiving.  As a college freshman, about 6 years ago, I remember meeting a girl who said part of the reason she was at college was to meet a man to marry.  She referenced how her parents were married at 19 & 20 and had spent  20+ wonderful years together.  I think at 17 I was unable to hide my shock at her words.  If I heard the same thing now, at 23, I would be inclined to shake some sense into her.  I will say that to the best of my knowledge this girl is now married, and I would hope very happy.

The best part about college is it is the time to be selfish.  Not everyone gets the luxury of going away to better themselves and devote themselves solely to ideas and projects that interest them.  College is not just about the freedom of partying and being away from your parents, but of learning about yourself and growing.  If you put it in perspective, those 4 (or 7) years of your life are a simple fraction of all the years you will, G-d willing, live, but they will change you immensely.  Why spend that time looking for someone else, when you can become the best version of yourself?

I personally am very fortunate to have found an amazing man, and we just so happen to have met in college.  While I may daydream about getting married, and have a Pinterest folder worth $1 million in billable hours for a wedding planner, I am happy I’m 23 and without a spouse. To the girls out there stressing about finding the right man by age 19, I say: it is not a race, it is not the the Ark, you should really live by the old adage about loving yourself before someone else can love you.

Finally Friday

We made it…woo!

This has been an exceptionally busy week for me personally, and many of the people around me.  Usually I am able to thrive off of excited energy and power through deadlines and major projects, but this week has me beat.  So here is a list of a few things that I’m feeling right now.

1. Dr. Who

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I know I am acceptionally late to the party on this one, but I’m obsessed.  Little AC has been a Doctor Who fans for years and I would catch an episode or two here and there with her.  But thanks to the glory of Netflix I am catching up on the latest 7 seasons.  Its an amazing show, great storylines, great British humor, and the Tenth Doctor is bad on the eyes either.  I recommend you watch a few episodes, give it a try.

2.  Running

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Last October when I accompanied Mommy Dearest to the Baltimore Running Festival, I promised myself I would run in it next year.  After much thought, research, and Buzzfeed lists about what to accomplish in your 20s, I have settled on doing the half marathon.  Yes, you heard it here, I am sanely choosing to travel 13.1.  I refuse to say run it because honestly I will never be able to run that far, but I will be able to GO that far.  I found an awesome 6 month training guide, which gives me plenty of time.  I am pumped just thinking about when I finally get to put a 13.1 sticker on my car, becaue you better believe I’m that kind of person.

3. Puppies

No explanation needed, just take a look at them.

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  My kind of dog.

My Issues with…Facebook

Time for a good old fashioned rant.

Years ago in high school, when both Facebook and I were young the word of social media was a wonderous thing.  I had roughly 200 friends, who I knew IRL.  You would post pictures of the field party from last Saturday, with all the beer cans covered up with a quick paint job. We used groups to claim prom dresses (It was an all girls high school), and posted statuses stating Katie is…going to sleep.

But not anymore…

Now there are three groups who have infiltrated Facebook and are ruining it for the rest of us nostalgic normal people.

Offender 1: Moms

I am FB friends with my mom, and many of my friends’ mothers, as well as those of my friends who are mothers.  My issue with moms on Facebook is by no means pictures of their children, because who doesn’t love pictures of sweet little kids, my issue is when they use their status are an open forum to complain about their children.  The whole world doesn’t need to know when little Johnny didn’t make it to the potty on time, or when Suzy got a C in Algebra.  My least favorite of the mom posts are the “so and so is grounded for life because he snuck out, got into an accident, etc. and I’m about to kill him”.  Excuse me ladies, but this is uncalled for and humiliating to your child.  That whole chain of events that led you to that post is due to a lack of respect, not just from your son/daughter but from you as well.  If you need a place to vent that badly, please look up a reputable mental health professional.

Offender 2: Party People

True story, I am Facebook friends with a kid I went to elementary school with.  Growing up, I rarely heard him speak, and I actually forgot that he matriculated with the class from 1st grade through 8th grade.  If you had asked me six months ago what had become of this guy I would have guess he is a lab scientst or something else highly intellectual and quiet.  Oh I was wrong. This aformentioned young man is a raver.  And he makes a point to tell the world when he is drunk, high, hungry, going to a rave, at a rave, leaving a rave, tripping, tired, ready to get drunk again.  Shaking my head.  I don’t care if you choose that lifestyle for yourself, its a free country.  I do think if you ever want a legitimate job you should probably avoid posting on the internet that you drop molly four times a week.  Unless of course you are looking for a future in Miley Cyrus’ posse.  Then carry on my friend.

Offender 3: The Semi-political/Semi-religious People.

Dear FB ranter, please locate Benghazi on a map. kthanks!  As an individual who sought out a higher education based in the politics and religion, specifically those traditions of the Middle East you can see why this bothers me.  Rooted in my deep love of the beauty and traditions of most all religions, minus those that have child brides and Scientology, I believe everyone is entitled to define their faith as they want.  I also believe that FB is not the forum to shove your political or religious beliefs in others faces.  That what you have ablog for, am I right??  Let’s make the world a better place and keep our very humble and maybe not the best informed opinions about global politics and religions to ourselves???

Nnkay? Great!